Where do you Hurt?
Your "Hurt" areas: love, social, emotional...
The ability to hurt is a fact of life, and self-hurt is connected to it. Your own hurt (from the choices you picked) could be a form of being held back...in your love life, social standing, or emotional striving. (Or, at least, these things create your "tender" areas.) A self-critical approach may be useful to plot your life's narrative. Try to acknowledge your own personal history: parents, friends, "mortal" wounds, etc.
Your own true self is just the tip of the iceberg, and it's a good place to start. Take a look at yourself, and realize you've got multiple potential. (One option would be to get a helpful book, such as the one listed below, and to "self-survey" your journey through this process.) On the other hand, your hurt might be just part of "growing" pains - even if you're ninety. So take heart...and Good Luck!
The Life Strategies Workbook
The 22 Non-Negotiable Laws of Wellness
The New Personality Self-Portrait : Why You Think, Work, Love and Act the Way You Do
The Psychologist's Book of Self-Tests
Acts of Kindness: How to Create a Kindness Revolution
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