You better get your head over to the PSYCHE session!!!
YOU:
Doctor Q, I got sort of a problem. I was wondering if you could help me.
DR Q:
That's what I'm here for. Please go on.
YOU:
Well, there's a guy I really like, and he doesn't seem to know I exist.
DR Q:
You mean he doesn't know who you are? Or is he ignoring your presence?
YOU:
Well, like, we've met a few times, but he doesn't seem interested in me.
He has never spoken to me once, and I don't think he knows that I actually exist.
DR Q:
Stop right there. Why, exactly, do you think he's not interested?
YOU:
Well, um, he doesn't smile too much or go out of his way. He doesn't make a move on me.
DR Q:
Let's dissect this. Do you think he might be shy?
YOU:
That could be a distinct possibility.
No way! He's generally straightforward, direct, and assertive.
DR Q:
If that's the situation, it might be a case where you'll have to make the first move. What do you say?
YOU:
Me? I'm kind of shy myself. And, Doc...isn't that a guy's responsibility?
DR Q:
Look, it's not a perfect universe. Once in a while, a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. Perhaps you should be bold and assertive. And polite, of course. Generally, let it be known (directly, or through your friends) that you like the guy.
YOU:
I could never do that!
What if he boldly, and assertively, rejects me?
DR Q: Sure you can. Write him a note or ask him to help you with a problem. Make small talk. If you're really shy, ask your friends to help you. Seek advice from a wise counsellor. Shyness can be overcome, and rejection shouldn't be allowed to faze you...it's just a normal part of life. You must act now, or regret it later.
DR Q: Rejection is always difficult, of course. But if he shoots you down, the Earth will not collapse under you and swallow you up. It will only FEEL that way...for a time. You may be asking, IS there a way to avoid any possibility of being hurt? In a word, sorry. Putting yourself on the line is going to occasionally hurt you. It's SUPPOSED to hurt...once in a while. But you still have to make the effort. How can you find the truth, unless you grab the risk? And how can you accept and move on (hopefully, to your ideal prospect), until you resolve this dilemma once and for all?
DR Q:
Then maybe he's just clueless. Let him know that you're interested.
YOU:
Yeah, but I'm kind of shy of doing that. And, Doc...isn't that a guy's responsibility?
DR Q:
Look, it's not a perfect universe. Once in a while, a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. Perhaps you should be bold and assertive. And polite, of course. Generally, let it be known (directly, or through your friends) that you like the guy.
YOU:
I could never do that!
What if he boldly, and assertively, rejects me?
DR Q: Sure you can. Write him a note or ask him to help you with a problem. Make small talk. If you're really shy, ask your friends to help you. Seek advice from a wise counsellor. Shyness can be overcome, and rejection shouldn't be allowed to faze you...it's just a normal part of life. You must act now, or regret it later.
DR Q: Rejection is always difficult, of course. But if he shoots you down, the Earth will not collapse under you and swallow you up. It will only FEEL that way...for a time. You may be asking, IS there a way to avoid any possibility of being hurt? In a word, sorry. Putting yourself on the line is going to occasionally hurt you. It's SUPPOSED to hurt...once in a while. But you still have to make the effort. How can you find the truth, unless you grab the risk? And how can you accept and move on (hopefully, to your ideal prospect), until you resolve this dilemma once and for all?
DR Q:
So it would seem logical to let him know you exist.
YOU:
Yes, but how? We travel in different cliques. Two opposite worlds.
DR Q:
Get noticed. Find out if you have any common friends. Join his clique or frequent his surroundings.
YOU:
OK...but then what?
DR Q:
Well, let's ask you a question. Do you think he might be shy?
YOU:
That could be a distinct possibility.
No way! He's generally straightforward, direct, and assertive.
DR Q: Sure you can. Write him a note or ask him to help you with a problem. Make small talk. If you're really shy, ask your friends to help you. Seek advice from a wise counsellor. Shyness can be overcome, and rejection shouldn't be allowed to faze you...it's just a normal part of life. You must act now, or regret it later.